Even before I was a blogger, I loved money. I liked saving it away, splurging on things that made me smile, and I adored talking about it. I never understood why more people weren’t completely open about it since I learned so much from all of the random conversations I started. I have come to realize that my transparency has led me into all of the relationships I treasure today.
Meeting my Husband
Throughout my teenage years, I scared off a lot of people by being so open. At the time I thought I sucked. I am friendly, have a good sense of humor, and don’t smell, but I could never make a friend with anybody for more than a year at most. Then I started college. There are a ton of people even more open than me at college, but my obsession with budgeting was a little off-putting then too. My husband actually liked talking about plans for money as much as me, which was awesome. It was even more awesome that his plans included a healthy savings amount too. We bonded over board games and dreams of a fun but stable life in the future.
Despite the huge accomplishment of finding a great partner, I still didn’t form very many lasting friendships with others. I had to work on keeping alot to myself. I became a better listener. I tried to explain that my personal opinions of how I want my life to be don’t mean that I’d judge someone for wanting something different. I think I really learned how to communicate in my early-mid twenties.
Then I started making friends. I met some great people in a few board gaming groups and I started developing lasting friendships with individuals as nuts as me but in different ways. This has worked out very well for us. I can go on and on about blogging and money, and they actually listen. Then I really listen to anything and everything they want to talk about too. I think my budget-love is actually rubbing off on a couple of them, but they’ll never admit it.
In the end, my transparent personality about everything including cash actually helped me weed out a ton of people from my life that weren’t a good fit anyway. If I wanted to chit-chat with small talk my whole life, I just needed to remain quiet and composed. But to find the people that fit into the puzzle of my life, I had to continue being myself and see what stuck, lol.
If you have a passion, share it. The people you want in your life will stick around and the rest weren’t a good fit anyway. If I can find a support network of my own even though I talk about blogging, my husband, my dogs, and money 90% of the time, anybody can find great relationships.
Have you ever tried to change yourself for others? Did you realize that you didn’t want to ? How did it work out?